How many times we say “I am proud of you” to someone we care and are proud of?
Those 5 words are more powerful than you imagine.
Last Saturday my son played a soccer game.
Unlike Dad, he is good. He plays with intensity and technique.
He organizes the team and motivates them.
You can tell I am proud.
Coming back from the game, I told him:
-You played great but….
And I started to enumerate a few times he did not do great.
Soon after I said those words, I realized I was not the best parent around.
That “but”, if I only would shut up instead of saying “but”.
Or better yet just say:
Son, I am proud of you.
I decided I need to be more aware of my words.
Praise my son. Tell him more: “I am proud of you”
That doesn’t mean hiding the truth.
He did 200 plays perfect and screw up 2.
That deserves only a praise.
I will praise more when deserved.
My son, my daughters, my wife my agents.